Whether it’s a good breakup or an ugly one, the truth is breaking up is hard to do, and men are no exception to the rule. If the thought of moving on with someone else does not appeal to you, if you just can’t imagine living a life without her, you obviously still have feelings for your ex. So, if you don’t want to let go and think your love is still worth fighting for, go for it. Here are some tips to help you get your girlfriend back.
First, assess the situation. Take a hard and honest look at yourself and the relationship. Do your best to figure out went wrong and learn from it. There are many reasons why a relationship ends and pointing fingers is never helpful. Ask yourself different questions from different perspectives. Scrutinizing each aspect of the breakup is important because it can help determine if the relationship is salvageable. If the relationship is not fixable, it’s time to let go. But, if there is still hope for reconciliation, then seize that hope and go with it.
Now look at yourself. What can you do to improve? List all your qualities, good ones as well as bad ones. Try to do what you can to limit or erase the bad habits you possess that may be detrimental to the success of your relationship. Yes, it is hard to let go of old bad habits but if you really want to win her back, it’s a sacrifice worth making. After that, focus on the good. Remember the things your girlfriend always said she loved about you, the things that helped her fall in love with you in the first place. Bring back the man that swept her off her feet. Make it natural so that the whole thing will not look scripted. An improvement of the physical appearance comes in handy too. Include a good haircut and a new ensemble when facing her. You just might tickle her senses with your sense of style.
Once you have finished overhauling yourself, try to contact her. Set up a date or a casual meeting with her. Grab a coffee, watch a movie or engage in an activity that you both enjoy. Consider this befriending the start of your challenge to win your girlfriend back. It’s best not to put much romance in this first encounter as that could scare her away, but take cues from her. If you can feel and see that she’s wanting to be a little romantic on the date, accommodate her by all means. Just don’t rush. You want to be smart about it. Don’t rush into any conversation about getting back together. Just boost your role as a friend. If she shows any sign of returning your feelings and intentions, then by all means go with that.
If the above-mentioned tips work, the last part is easy. It’s as easy as breathing. Just let nature take its course. After all, it was the powerful nature of attraction that connected you two in the first place. So yes, the ways to win back a girlfriend are varied, but in the end, it’s your personal style and the things that first helped your girlfriend fall in love with you that are the most important. Be you, the best you can be and hopefully you’ll have her back in your arms in no time at all.